This month I am reading Rebecca Campbell’s book ‘Light is the new black’ for my spiritual book club and it’s been aha moment, after moment, after moment ... It’s like this woman is writing just for me.
I mean, she loves watching the TV series Private Practice and talk about past lives and she believes we choose our parents. Soul sister!!
But my main takeaway this week was the idea of loosening your grip on the things you think you most NEED.
What external things are you clinging to in an effort to feel whole or enough?
She says “We cling tightly because deep down we know that unless we control, cling to, and hold on, we feel that relationship, job or (insert your thing here) might not stay on its own accord. But in loosening our grip, we open space for light to come in and heal the part of us that doesn’t feel whole. As A Course in Miracles tells us ‘whatever we leave empty, grace will fill’ ...” (Page 66)
Ohhhh boy ... so ... the things I’ve clung to in the past have been ... the job ... the relationship ... the alcohol ... the draining friendships .... the emotional eating ... the overworking ... the people pleasing ... the spending ... the lying to ‘protect’ others (or myself).
I bet most of you can say you’ve clung to some of these.
You probably are now. Right?
There is a fear that nothing will come to take the place of that thing.
But I can definitely tell you that what Rebecca suggests about loosening your grip ... it works!
I’ve been in that place of desperately clinging to something (or someone) and that energy actually makes it worse. You know?
And I’ve been in that other place where you let go ... surrender ... some might say ‘give up’ ... give up the neediness and the fight ... it’s SO tiring.
That’s actually what’s making you exhausted my friends.
The fight to keep things that you don’t need to fight for.
Rebecca says “If you can find the courage to surrender, then that thing we once clung to will either stay on its own or be replaced by something that is beyond any of our wildest dreams.
Loosen your grip. Grace is coming. It might be uncomfortable at first, but I promise it will be worth it in the end.” (Page 67).
My invitation to you ...
Are you willing to let go, surrender and give up the thing you are clinging to? And begin to trust that grace will find its way to you.
I have a tribe of people who help me to re-frame and let go. Sometimes our own mind can trip is up.
Let me know if you need my support.
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So, this week, as I continue doing the Heal Thy Money Mindset course, we were journalling about what would happen if you stop making money the reason why you can't do things.
Wow! What a great question huh?
Makes you wriggle a bit in your chair right?
Did you scrunch up your face like I did?
Ohhh yeah ... these are the questions that help us to grow.
Since my commitment to you this year is to share even more authentically, here is my answer:
Aaaaaarrrggghhhh ... blahhhhh ... FINE! ...
Well - I would be doing A LOT more planning, dreaming and goal setting ... and then I'd have to take action.
I'm thinking about how excited I am to go to the QUEEN and Adam Lambert concert on Thursday night (20th Feb).
And as I watched them on the Fire Fight Concert the other night I felt the excitement expand.
Then Michael Buble came on and I suddenly had the thought "ohhh I'd like to see him too ... but I can't afford it."
And I began to feel sad. WTF?
A minute ago I was bursting at the seams with excitement.
I took the shine off a very cool gift that my sister gave me.
Me ... I took that shine off ... I mean seriously, seeing QUEEN live in concert is AMAZING!
Why would I even let myself go down that rabbit hole?
That's not a helpful thought process.
Of course, it was unconscious.
But I went there. Only for a few minutes. Until I realised what I was doing.
But for a few minutes I stopped myself feeling the anticipation of the joy and passion and crazy excitement of a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Plus, just for the record, its NOT TRUE!
I CAN actually afford to go to the Michael Buble concert too - if I wanted to!
So ... this is really making me look at my automatic, unconscious and programmed responses.
The other truth is that my life experiences have not confirmed the 'not enough money' belief.
I have actually always had jobs, clients, travel experiences, gifts and more ... given when I asked for them.
Or more to the point ... when I ASKED & ACTED for them ... when I TOOK ACTION for them.
The excuse of "not enough money" is blown out of the water when the momentum grows and all of the Universe conspires together.
The trip to LA last year with Erica (in December) was one of those times.
I'd been wanting to travel and so had she.
We both needed a break and her inspiration about seeing BTS in concert, eventually got us both out of our comfort zones and onto a plane to the US.
Did we have challenges? Hell yeah!
Do we regret going? No way!
It was a very revealing. It was fun and exciting. It was a whole new chapter in our travelling journal.
No more hostels for us! It's 4-star (or more) these days. *grin*
We learned A LOT on that short trip.
More importantly, it has wet our appetite for more.
I'm really keen to go to New York and do the Brian Weiss Past Life Therapy course.
It's been on my mind for years and I have a growing desire to tap into the teaching and coaching aspects more.
Plus I have a personal passion for doing the past life journey-work myself.
My book (Finding my Soul at Sea) touched on my early experiences with past life regression meditation and my desire to learn more has grown since then.
I love talking, reading and teaching about past lives and how they can help us heal and transform in this current life.
Money is NOT the reason why I've stopped myself for doing the things I want to do.
I've always found, created and manifested the money when I've been committed and passionate about a goal or idea in the past.
And I figure that there is NO REASON why it wouldn't continue to be so.
I know that it is fear that is stopping me.
Fear of the unknown.
Fear of failure.
Fear of success.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of having it all and then losing it.
So, as I sat there with the feeling of fear ... it was okay.
I know it is only temporary.
I know how to shift it.
I know how to take care of myself.
I know I've done this before.
I said "Hello fear and doubt, I honour you. I love you. I know you are just trying to keep me safe. And it's time to grow. We've got this."
It turns out the next module of the Heal Thy Money Mindset course is "Love your fear".
Yes ... that's divine.
Thank you Universe.
Blessings Pip x
Did you know that public speaking is one of the top rated fears. It trumps fear of dying.
And I have to say that I remember almost pooping my pants at the beginning of my Social Host career.
When they first handed me that microphone and said "Out you go kiddo!"
I was stepping out on stage to “entertain” 2000 people every day ...
My first thought was ... "Are you kidding me!?"
Now ... it's a very different story ... 20 years later.
As I spoke at my book launch on the weekend ... I felt calm and ON PURPOSE.
I was more worried about the mini-cakes and the alignment of the chairs.
Feeling ON PURPOSE ...
What does that mean to you?
For me it's that IN THE MOMENT ease.
That SMOOTH SAILING feeling. *wink*
I was not nervous, I was calm and clear and excited.
I had a significant realisation during my writing process, ... what if I'd never taken that job on the cruise ship, as a social host?
Would I have learned those valuable skills of speaking to and connecting with big groups of people on stage?
Maybe ... eventually ...
I believe there are many roads to get to our destiny.
My point is that I wasn't thinking ... THIS fun job as a Social Host will lead to my own business, writing a book and speaking on stage about authenticity. I was thinking ... I'll be travelling around the world for free and being paid for it. *high five*
Now in 2020 I'm being called to be up on stage and confidently speak about my passions.
I wasn’t considering the potential life purpose elements of that job.
I wasn’t expecting to find my soul in a trivial job.
What I get very clearly now is ... before I spoke on stage or wrote about my Soul and my deepest desires in life, I had to practice by hosting Bingo, Karaoke, and Trivia ... it was my unique training ground.
Do you know what you are training for now?
What issues are coming up for you again that need to be addressed?
What people are you dealing with that make you smile OR push your buttons?
What things light you up OR what things completely piss you off?
The key is to stay tuned to the moment.
What are you being called or lead or directed to? ...
Follow that ...
Trust that you are definitely meant to be where you are right now.
If you need someone to coach you through your current situation, do some emotional re-balancing or just listen.
You can write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org or you can post on Facebook @Conscious Courses and Therapies.
I'd love to hear from you.
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