This week's blog is a special excerpt from my newly released book - Finding my Soul at Sea.
If you have been watching my posts on Facebook and Instagram, you will know that this week we said goodbye to a beautiful lady called Sharon Pittorino, who passed suddenly from a brain aneurysm.
A lot of people love her.
She's someone that I love.
(Note - I intentionally say that in the present tense, because I know that we don't really die - we are eternal, immortal Souls. We just let go of our human body. Our true Self continues on and on and on).
It has been a very emotional week on Phillip Island.
Once upon a time I would not have said so openly that I loved her.
I was not someone who said 'I love you' willy-nilly to anyone.
But working on cruise ships changed my perspective on love in a significant way.
Now I don't hold back. I don't wait to say those very precious words.
We don't know for sure when we will transition back home.
So, I encourage you this week (and for the rest of your life) ... feel it and say it.
I hope you enjoy this little excerpt from the book.
I love you.
Blessings Pip x
Excerpt from the story: FALLING IN AND OUT OF LOVE QUICKLY
Love was such a fluid concept in the ship environment. I loved people I don’t think I would have ever considered on land. And people loved me in many ways that I never expected to be loved.
I wrote this in an email to a friend, after leaving one of the ships:
I still miss my closest darling friends – I am making new friends (of course!) but you ALL mean a lot to me. YOU are my SOULMATES! Truly. Hugs and kisses to everyone. Love Miss Pippina, Pipularrrr, Ophelia xxx
And his response to me was:
Pip, you kick so much ass! … I love you to death and I have learned a lot from you and I really admire the way you feel about life and how you cope with this crazy world because I think we are very similar in that respect. Thank you for being one of my beautiful soul mates! … You are special! I wish I could give you a hug!!!! – N
On land, I was the girl who tried to stay friends with her exes. I was never very good at letting go. They tended to linger in my mind and my life. I said “I love you” only if I was REALLY sure.
On ships, I started to understand how you can love someone within a day. It finally made sense to me that you CAN feel love for someone that fast and you CAN say, “I love you” to them. You don’t have to date them forever and plan to marry them.
You can just feel the feelings and say it.
When I was a teenager, I remember having an argument with my cousin. She’s six months younger than me. We were best friends from birth. We were like sisters. She would say “I love you” to people that she just met ten minutes ago and then she’d say it to me. I remember being upset because it seemed to me to be devaluing the love she felt for me. She really felt that she loved everyone, so why not say it?
Now I know what it feels like to feel love for someone within a very short space of time. Perhaps her “love frequency” was just set to a higher sensitivity level than mine, or maybe her heart was more open.
I can vividly remember the way that I sobbed saying goodbye to friends at the end of their ship contracts. It might have only been a few months, but my heart felt like it would break in to a million pieces. I loved them so much. How could I go on without my daily dose of laughter, naughtiness, hugs and their special brand of silly? It was not much easier to be the one leaving either. Going back into the “real world” was a bit daunting after living in the safe bubble of ship-land.
On board I learned how to tie up loose ends quickly and move on. Some intimate relationships were two days, some three weeks, some four months, but every time they ended there were minimal awkward moments. Everyone was on the same page. Our friendships stayed intact, even if our sexual relationship ended. It was not unusual for someone to have moved on to a new person within a few days.
Time was compacted. A week felt like a month. When you spend twenty-four hours a day with someone, you get to know them quickly, and well. Good and bad things. On land, you might not find out that someone was a bad kisser, for example, until the second or third date, which could be weeks. On ships, that information was discovered in the first few days of attraction. It’s hard to not run into someone when you spend so much time in close quarters with them.
I remember having this conversation about sex via email with a close friend on my fourth contract.
Pip, you need to get movin’ … I just shagged someone else last night … that’s 2 for me in 3 weeks and none for you in a month … ha ha! I’m winning! … I think it would be cool if we had a competition. … ha ha! … bye sweety! – N
To which I responded with:
HEY BUDDY!!! NO COMPETITIONS! I am sure to beat your arse (ARSE!) anyway … so don’t even start. *grin* I have been (overly) focusing my attention on a guy who has a girlfriend … and that was insanity as far as getting sex. The more time I spent with him the more I liked him … and the more I knew that I would not be able to go any further than friends. SO … I am trying to stay away from him.
There is a cute guy in the Calypso Band, who has been making some interesting moves – hmm? Mebbe?? I am just not sure that is what I want to do anymore? Eeek!! I cannot believe I just wrote that.
Perhaps I have some sort of illness? … I am obviously not thinking straight if I don’t really want to shag every cute guy I see. Some might say I am in LOVE … but they would be INSANE!! It is more likely just the stars not aligning in the right way eh??
Love Count Pipularrrr
And he replied:
Pip! … don’t question how you feel about someone or analyse why you aren’t shagging everything in sight. You’re fine! Every so often someone comes into our life that makes us evaluate what we really want.
It is happening to me right now – I really like this girl but we are on different paths, so that’s cool. I wish the stars were aligned perfectly with everyone I shag but it just ain’t gonna happen!
I think that it’s a beautiful thing about travelling and meeting new people and discovering new soul mates, friends and lovers. Just keep having fun! Love you too!! – N
I felt like I went through a transformation from naïve small-town girl to woman of the world in six years. My relationship experiences prior to the ships were not astounding. They were normal, everyday, regular and loving relationships. But I realised that I was being a version of myself that everyone around me wanted me to be. I was being a good daughter. I was a great student. I was a reliable employee. I was a caring and predictable girlfriend.
On the ships I was allowed to explore new possibilities for myself. Every six-month contract I could re-invent myself. Be a whole new version of me. I could be crazy, conservative, mysterious, spiritual, adventurous … whatever I felt like trying. It was completely freeing. But I do remember wondering after all the relationships with men who were similar to me and men who were nothing like me – none of them worked out long term. It made me consider the question of who was the right guy for me?
This week’s blog is about how moving your self out the way will allow your Soul to bloom.
I was listening to Colette Baron Reid’s podcast and she said something that really resonated ...
“YOU are the preventer of your success. If you are not getting what you want YOU are not ready ... get ready!”
And I thought ‘Wow! Yes! That’s exactly what’s been happening to me.’
Last year I spent 9 months writing my mini-memoir with the guidance and support of Ocean (at Ocean Reeve Publishing).
The book is a collection of stories about my spiritual journey in a very non-spiritual space - working on cruise ships.
This book is the first time I have shared my truth about my experiences. It is me sharing all of my authentic self.
The writing part was challenging and I had to be focused ... but I had fun writing all my memories and insights.
The publishing part is all new to me and it has been pushing me out of my comfort zone - BIG TIME!
I’ve been living on Phillip island for 7 years building a self care and wellness business.
Being self-employed and teaching has been a wonderful experience for me.
It’s been challenging and I had to be focused ... but I’ve had fun.
Now, my book is 6 days away from release and I have been asked to step up and back out into the world.
The Finding my Soul at Sea cover reveal is happening on 27th October.
It’s awesome... exciting... and ... my small self has been terrified!
Over the last 12 months my ego has been definitely been preventing my Soul from expanding.
But I don’t tell you this to justify or give myself (Or you) permission to stay small.
I tell you this to remind you that your Soul knows best.
Your Soul knows what will support you.
Your Soul knows what will block you.
Your Soul knows what will excite you.
Your Soul knows when to move or stop.
Your Soul knows who to go to for help.
Your Soul knows that your ego is scared.
Your Soul knows you can only move forward when you are happy, relaxed, calm and loving.
How do you know what are your Soul messages?
Well you can feel them deep in your gut - in those quiet times just before sleep or on meditation or at the end of yoga class or on the beach when you zone out, or in the garden when you sit and breathe.
So, even though my ego has been going crazy with fearful warnings this past year, I knew in my waters (wink - a little pun there about the book topic) that I had to keep moving forward.
This is my true purpose.
I’ve wanted to be an author since I was a little girl (remember my stories from the blue book Erica, Anita and Janine?).
I’ve had a vision sitting quietly in my Soul to inspire and teach people to embrace more of their true self.
I’ve got an inner knowing that I can’t go back now.
And all the self care techniques that I’ve learned over the last 20 years (and that I now teach) I have been using to deeply soothe my small self this year.
That’s why I was drawn to learn the reiki energy healing, the EFT Tapping, the Bowen Therapy, the meditation, the crystals, the essential oils, the chanting, the yoga, and all the angel intuitive clearing and preservation techniques.
And that’s why I’ve been drawn to certain healers and coaches to help me when I need to shift even more.
Everything is happening for a reason.
Know that .... YOU are not lost at sea.
YOU are being guided ... YOU just might not be aware of it all the time.
YOU are reading this article - that is a sign.
I look forward to meeting to soon.
My book ‘Finding my Soul at Sea’ is being released on 27th October. Yay!!
Go to www.pipcoleman.com/new-book-coming.soon for details and special gifts & bonuses.
Colette Baron Reid's book is called Uncharted - the journey though uncertainty to infinite possibility.
This week’s blog is about kindness ...
This week I received three beautiful gifts.
- a piece of pottery
- a re-frame on what success is
- a trip to LA ...
Today a friend dropped in and gave me a small piece of her hand-made pottery.
It is the perfect size to hold my earrings, some crystals or perhaps it could be a salt dish.
I was so touched that she thought to give this piece to me. It’s gorgeous.
The second gift she gave me was a verbal reminder of her full support of me as a therapist and human being.
She said that she’d defended my character to someone who doesn’t know me and it so filled my heart with joy, that I cried.
Now I don’t profess to be perfect.
I’ve made mistakes.
I am human and fallible.
I speak out of turn and judge people.
We all do.
We aren’t going to learn our lessons and grow if we are perfect all the time, right?
And ... let me tell you ... my intentions are (usually) pure.
What can I say?
My ego gets in the way of my soul sometimes.
So, today I was reminded that all my years of self development practices have paid off.
My outer self is more aligned with my soul now.
My inner journey of success has been worthwhile.
Other people see my truth (and speak it) because now I’m living and being more authentically me.
Then I was saying to one of my client’s that I’ve not had a traditionally successful career or life path ... and she said “But you’ve had a very successful inner journey that affects other people when you share it in your writing and coaching.”
That reframe was gold!
I didn’t think about how many people might be affected by my sharing my life lessons ... that is successful.
The third gift was from my sister ... she loves the Korean band BTS. And they are doing a concert in Los Angeles with some other well known artists on the 6th December. She decided to buy tickets and asked me if I’d like to go with her? “I’ll pay for the flights if you pay for your concert tickets.”
She didn’t have to ask me twice.
I said ‘Hell yeah!! ... LA BABY!!”
We are still buzzing after 3 days!!!
So, I want to sincerely say ...
THANK YOU to my very dear friend and my client, and my sister ... I love you.
I invite you to consider: Who do you need to say thank you to this week?
This week’s blog is about asking better questions.
Do you ever ask yourself ...
What’s wrong with me?
Why did I do that again?
How does everyone else have what I want?
Those questions don’t make us feel very good.
And I believe when I don’t feel good, I don’t live well.
As you know, I’m a big promoter of the mind-body connection and how being aware of your unhealthy thoughts you can improve the health of your body. Barbara de Angelis says that your feeling and emotions are “text messages from your heart” ... so listen to them.
As I’ve been writing my book and preparing for the launch, I’ve shared with you that I’ve honestly had lots of crazy thoughts going through my head. I’ve been the overthinking queen!!!
And my body has responded to that overthinking with tension, tightness, stomach and back issues.
I’ve just finished reading a great book by Cheryl Richardson called Waking up in Winter. It is our book for Spiritual Book Club this month.
She talks about how when you come to a crossroads and you are not sure which way to go, whether it is mid-life, end of a job, end of a relationship, retirement or end of a project ... this is the time to ask yourself some deeper questions.
Here are my 3 favourite questions and my answers ...
(Keep an eye on your emails ... I’ll give you the other 14 questions for your Friday freebie gift - yay!)
1. If you were to receive an award for doing what you most enjoy, what would the award be called? And why?
I most enjoy seeing people fully settle into and accept their true self and feel completely connected and buzzed.
So, I'd call it the “Get psyched about you” award.
Because how freaking awesome is it to get excited, buzzed, psyched about your own achievements and self.
We celebrate others a lot - clap, cheer, rally, march, follow and ‘like’ others but we rarely fully celebrate ourselves.
2. If your life were to end today, what would you regret? What would you regret NOT having done? What would you regret NOT having become?
I’d regret ... beating myself up for supposed mistakes and worries - the what ifs? of the future.
I’d regret not having done ...
- my book launch
- repair relationships with my brothers
- travel to counties not seen yet
- visiting old friends overseas
I’d regret not becoming ...
- a past life regression therapist
- a wife / partner
- a contented soul-being
- healthy / fully balanced body
3. Think of someone whose behaviour feels frustrating or upsetting (from your past or present). What is it about the behaviour that causes you discomfort? What aspects of your identity might they be inviting you to embrace? What might they be trying to teach you about yourself?
Someone Behaviour Lesson
Ex-boss. Selfish / Manipulator Be more selfish (self-supporting) but with integrity.
Ex-colleague. Cowardly Be brave & courageous and speak up.
Acquaintance. Straight talker / Rude Speak the truth, have more of a 'F*@K' you attitude and back myself.
Teacher. Over-worker Take massive action and take extreme care of myself.
My invitation to you this week, is to ask better questions of yourself and then see how the answers change how you feel.
Louise Hay says that the longest relationship you have in your life is the one you have with yourself.
So, please nurture, love and support yourself. You deserve it.
Reminder for THIS Saturday 12th October ... Wendy Anastasi and I are running 2 x Give Yourself Permission To Shine workshops ... you will experience an energising yoga, a deep healing meditation, an ‘I love my body’ tapping, and everyone will receive a FREE goodie bag of treats to take home.
9am-12pm (1 space left)
1.30-4.30pm (4 spaces left)
Book at www.pipcoleman.com/store
Blessings Pip x
This week’s blog is about how your mind can make you crazy ... and then physically sick!
Last week I was feeling very tight.
So I did my usual relaxation techniques but nothing was shifting the physical feelings. Hmmm ...
So I asked my body ‘what’s going on?’
And my body said ... Well Pip - you’ve been playing crazy, doomsday ‘what if?’ game haven’t you?
And I said ... No!?
Okay ... yes I have.
But I want to be positive.
I know. But it’s time to tell the truth. Tell me how has the ‘what if’ game been playing in your head?
Let’s see ... I’ve been thinking ...
What if people hate my book?
What if they judge it ... and me?
What if they criticise it ... and me?
Or ... even ...
What if they don’t care, ignore it or just say nothing at all?
I've spent all this time writing. What a waste of my time.
Have I been wasting my time?
Then I was thinking...
What if everything changes?
What if the book is a massive success?
What if I have to travel overseas again?
What if I get everything I’ve wanted?
And ... even ...
What if I put out the book into the world and absolutely nothing changes?
Holy Moly! Yep - this mind is out of control.
So, understandably after all this scaring-myself action, I was feeling more and more anxious.
I finally booked in to see an Acupuncturist and then a Myotherapist.
She worked on my belly / diaphragm... ouch ... but when it released. Soooooooo good.
Then she did my hips / gluts. Ouch more!!! But great once released.
Then she worked on my upper and middle back and discovered ...
“Hey Pip. I think you have a rib out.”
“Could have been tight due to stress, then twisted or coughed or sneezed. Lots of things. But it explains the intensity of your physical sensations.”
“So I physically manifested a rib out ... with all my anxiety ... and that amplified my fears of publishing my book?”
“Well - seems like it.”
“Ahhhh ... now I can breath.”
She could not completely re-align the rib - so we told the Chiropractor in the clinic ... and he popped it back in.
Then I could breathe. Stand properly.
Belly not tight.
Back not tight.
Chest not tight.
The other thing that happened this week is I got a part time job at a beautiful homewares shop in San Remo.
And it has been a breathe of fresh air ... surrounded by whale and surfer photographs, sweet smelling soaps, spotty wrapping paper, llama mugs, soft cushions, fluffy toys, crystal, jewellery and pretty dresses.
I SOOOO needed this distraction and reality check.
I get it now ...
I really get that I choose what I do and feel. I’m in control.
I’ve spent 16 years building my self care and authenticity muscles.
Leaving my tiny town to go to University opened me up to level 1 of authenticity.
Travelling overseas was level 2.
Working on cruise ships was level 3.
Running my own business was level 4.
And now this book launch is taking me to level 5.
Just because I might be going back out into the spotlight doesn’t mean I have to stay there all the time ... nor does it mean I have to do it the way that others have done or how someone else says.
It’s my book. It’s my life.
So other than feeling very tender right now (after my massage) I’m feeling great! 😁
The universe loves me.
It’s all working out exactly how it’s meant to.
I love me. I trust me. I’ve got this.
If you need help with re-framing, re-setting, re-aligning or just need someone to vent to ... you can book in for a one-on-one coaching session or a healing treatment. And there are Reiki Level One and Two course spaces still available for October and November.
I look forward to seeing you soon.
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