I thought I was honest in my book (and my life) ... but after reading Glennon Doyle’s book ‘Untamed’ - I was deeply affected.
Maybe I could’ve even more honest. Wow! Imagine that!?
Maybe I could become even more authentic and deeply connected to myself (and others) by telling the truth more often.
Maybe I could live more honestly.
Maybe I can write my next book in a way that is more truthful.
More raw. More vulnerable.
Brene Brown speaks about vulnerability and shame and guilt.
Interesting that these feelings are so connected.
I wonder what that book would be like?
What would it include?
Growing up ... truths about being a girl / woman and being the oldest sibling.
Relationships ... truths about being independent together, love, sex and heartbreak.
School ... truths about bullying and friends and parent as teacher at the school.
University... truths about thinking for yourself vs regurgitation to get a good grade.
Travel ... truths about going on a trip that was his not mine, and the trip(s) I booked myself. Empowerment.
Work ... truths about undervaluing your skills and standing up for your rights.
Business ...truths about following your dreams, losing faith, being frustrated, loving what you do and never giving up.
Spiritual development... truths about the times you let your ego get the better of you and times you were crazy in-tune connected to the universe.
Writing a book ... truths about waking up, synchronic meetings, almost giving up, support from others, anxious about judgements and massive personal growth!
Knowing the truth ... truths about myself, my fears, my blocks, my beliefs, my non-negotiables, my aha moments, my bravery, and my values - and how they can help others know themselves better.
How do I feel about speaking the truth?
🤔 hmmm okay - well that’s intense. It's exciting and I feel nervous too.
What will I uncover in myself?
Can I really do this? Tell it exactly how I see, feel, know it.
How do you feel about telling the truth?
This month I have been musing about my ideal client. I wonder if she resonates with you ...
She's a sensitive soul, who is connected sometimes to her goals and true self, but spends a lot of time overgiving to her family, friends and workplace.
She's slightly overweight (maybe a little more) with aches and pains in the hips and shoulders - mostly because she carries too much responsibility and has imbalance in her energy.
She is a caring person ... a teacher, a health-care worker, a nurse, a mother, a loving and helpful soul. And she's feeling resentful because others don't give back to her in the same way.
She is also tired a lot, but doesn't sleep well.
She is wishing for a life that is fun and easy and graceful.
She wants to rest and not feel guilty.
She loves to read but won't stay in the chair (or hammock) for "too long" becasue that would be lazy. But she wishes for that freedom.
She's got money for self-care and wants to use it more often.
She's keen to change and put herself as a priority more.
She's interested in wellness classes, psychic development, meditation, sound healing, yoga, massage and Reiki - and - honestly, anything that will help her to understand herself more fully.
She's wise and brave and funny.
She loves to laugh and share stories about her life and listen to other women do the same.
She is a firm advocate for people who are less fortunate and loves to help or donate to charities and community events.
She's a lover of yoga and meditation (and even if she doesn't do them all the time, she appreciates them).
She has a desire to learn and expand and grow.
Her favourite books are about past lives, mediumship, self development, self growth, magic, manifesting, inspirational journeys of courage and faith.
She believes in the law of attraction - even if she's not altogether sure what it is, or how it works.
She is willing to try new things and push out of her comfort zone to allow for change.
She's a nature lover who is a supporter of all things environmental and earthy.
She schedules her self-care so it is not missed and gives herself rewards.
She is serious at times that require it and silly when the mood needs to be lifted.
She trusts that when the student is ready the teacher will appear.
She describes herself as spiritual, but not religious.
She's my favourite client, because she is always on time, she pays before her treatments or coaching sessions and may even book 3 or 4 session in advance.
Thank you. I love you. I look forward to seeing you again soon.
Blessings Pip xxx
This resonated with me ... hope it's helpful to you too.
BY MELANIE CURTIN - @MELANIEBCURTIN
Around 40 million people in the U.S. have an anxiety disorder, which can range from a generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), defined as "intense worrying you can't control" to panic attacks, complete with heart palpitations, trembling, shaking, and/or sweating.
Whether you experience is of mild or extreme anxiety, there are steps you can take immediately to calm down and self-soothe.
Here are a few of the best:
1. Stand up straight
According to Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., psychologist and author of Freeing Yourself from Anxiety, "When we are anxious, we protect our upper body -- where our heart and lungs are located -- by hunching over."
For immediate relief from anxiety, stand up, pull your shoulders back, plant your feet evenly and widely apart, and open your chest. Then breathe deeply. This posture, combined with deep breathing, helps your body remember that it's not in danger right now, and that it is in control (not helpless). If you can't stand up (i.e. you're in your car), just pull your shoulders back and open up your chest. The most important thing is to stop hunching and breathe deeply.
2. Play the 5-5-5 game
When you're anxious, you're often caught in a (negative) thought loop. Play this to get back into your body and stop anxiety fast: Look around and name 5 things you can see. List 5 sounds you can hear. Move 5 parts of your body you can feel (i.e. rotate your ankle, wiggle your ears, nod your head up and down). It might sound silly, but this works.
3. Sniff lavender oil
Lavender oil has a lot of healing properties. It promotes a feeling of calm and supports deep, restful sleep. It can even help with headaches. To help reduce anxiety, keep a bottle of lavender oil at your desk (or in purse if you have one). Breathe it in and/or massage it into your temples when you need a boost of peace. Bonus points for combining the sniffing with deep, even breaths.
4. Watch a funny video
Yes, really. Watching a clip of your favorite comedian or blooper reel will help you stop feeling anxious fast. Why? Because you can't laugh and stay anxious at the same time, physiologically. Your body relaxes after a bout of laughter in a way that gets rid of anxiety. Plus, according to the Mayo Clinic, laughter brings in oxygen-rich air, which stimulates your heart and lungs, and spikes your endorphins.
5. Go for a brisk walk
Exercise is a long-proven way to lower anxiety. In addition to boosting your level of feel-good neurotransmitters, a brisk walk clears your mind and gets you breathing more deeply again--and anxiety is intimately linked to shallow breathing. Studies also show that people who exercise vigorously on a regular basis are 25 percent less likely to develop an anxiety disorder.
6. Accept your anxiety
This may sound counterintuitive, but Chansky says accepting your anxiety (instead of feeling ashamed or frustrated by it) will actually help you feel less anxious. It doesn't matter whether you inherited your anxiety from your family or your lifestyle, or both. It's here now, and acknowledging that instead of fighting it frees you up to learn how to manage it. Accepting it doesn't mean giving up, either. It means you stop spending energy berating yourself for being anxious and instead learn what works for you when it comes to self-soothing.
7. Listen to the most relaxing song in the world
This song was engineered specifically to calm your nervous system. It was found to reduce anxiety by up to 65 percent. Here is a loop of it playing on repeat. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYnA9wWFHLI
8. Re-label what's happening.
If you're having a panic attack and your heart is racing, it's easy to believe something like, "I'm going to die." Instead of buying into this inaccurate thought, re-label it. Remind yourself: "This is a panic attack. I've had them before and they don't actually kill me; they pass. This will also pass, and there's nothing I need to do." In actuality, panic attacks are an activation of the body's fight-or-flight response, which doesn't kill you--it keeps you alive.
9. Do something
Do anything. Clear a few things off your desk. Walk over to the kitchenette and get yourself a glass of water. Walk outside and find a flower to smell--it doesn't matter. Doing an action interrupts your thought pattern, which is often where anxiety starts.
When it comes to stopping anxiety, self-soothing is actually a profound act of self-love.
January is always a month of setting intentions and goals for the year.
And for me it always feels like lots of pressure.
How do I know FOR SURE that this is what I want to do this year?
What if I pick the wrong thing?
Will I stick to it this year?
Then I start to feel anxious ... and then I give up.
But ... something different happened this year.
I decided to stay on Phillip Island this year, because during this pandemic I feel safe here ...
I asked myself the question 'what would I like to do this year?'
One of the things that came up was enrolling in a hairdressing course or apprenticeship.
Ever since I was a teenager I've loved to do my own hair, play with colour, braid my sister's hair and be creative with hair.
But each time I was at a cross-roads where I could have done the hairdressing, I've not taken this path.
In the past, it was about money ... at one point it was going to cost me $15,000 to do the course. Nope!
And then it was about time ... 6 days a week for the apprenticeship, but I wasn't going to have time to do anything else.
But this time it was cheap (government concession due to being on JobSeeker this year).
And I had the time - only two days a week at school and one day a week in salon.
Then I had a conversation with the teacher at the school and some things became clear.
a) I actually don't agree with the "rules" of the beauty industry ... having to wear make-up to 'look professional' - WTF?
b) The first 6-12 months is basically theory - how to do a financial transaction in a salon, oh&s in the salon, compliance theory, how to look after clients (customer service), massage heads and wash and blow dry hair.
c) I already help people. I already make people feel good. I already do creative things. I already have loads of skills.
My revelation was that THIS childhood actually doesn't feel right anymore. WOW!
I was accepted into the hairdressing course ... but I felt really nauseaous about starting it.
And not a good nauseaous. :0)
I checked in with myself to be sure that I wasn't just scared to start a new adventure.
I compared this feeling to when I wrote and launched my book - Finding my Soul at Sea.
My childhood dream of writing books, on the other hand, feels good ALL THE TIME.
I felt scared and nervous and excited and intense when I launched my first book in 2019.
But I knew on a deeper level that this was my destiny and it was time.
Knowing the difference between being afraid and stepping into your new adventure, and feeling like something is really NOT RIGHT for you, is really important. And only YOU can know the difference.
I am excited for my next steps now ...
I have said a loving goodbye to the hairdressing dream ...
Now ... it's about growing and expanding and taking this life to the next level.
It may include EFT tapping, past life regression training, life coach training, or ???
I've also got my Find Your Soul companion journal coming out in February 2021 ... WOO HOO!!
So, may your 2021 be about you getting better at discerning your deepest desires !!
Feel free to comment below or send me an email to share your AHA moments.
Your experience of this year is worthy of honour and respect.
No one is more deserving of compassion.
Everyone has been in this storm.
Your story is worthy. Your joy. Your pain. Your success. Your loss. Your resilience.
Your confusion. Your inspiration. Your anxiety. Your creativity. Your unraveling.
It’s all worthy of acknowledgement.
This year has reminded us that we are all human.
The virus has been the great leveller.
You may think that other people have had a tougher year than you, but that doesn’t mean your life experiences are unworthy.
Take time to honour yourself.
Count your blessings.
What have you learned about yourself?
What is most important to you?
What will you not do anymore?
What new things have you embraced?
2020 was not wasted time, it was an opportunity to clarify what’s truly worthy of your time.
“Unworthiness feels like unalignment with your source. Worthiness is alignment with source.” Abraham Hicks
Blessings Pip x
I remember years ago I was speaking to a friend about my dilemma of travelling overseas or taking one of two great jobs in Sydney.
She laughed at me and said “ohhh no you have so many great options! ... just choose one and if it doesn’t work out, choose the other one ... and if that doesn’t work out, another thing will probably come up.”
I thought it was a bit flippant in my state of distress, but she was absolutely right.
Do you recall Lewis Carroll’s exchange between Alice and the Cheshire Cat:
“Would you tell me, please which way I ought to go from here?” said Alice.
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where---“said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
Curiouser and Curiouser ...be SO true!
My point is ... this year may have been full of big decisions for a lot of us, but (although the news will only tell you the horror stories) a lot of people have been choosing, adapting and pivoting until they found their new way of being. Some are even happier and thriving.
Not all COVID19 stories are sad.
This year is not over yet.
How can you raise the tone of your life, by choosing something new?
What would make you happiest?
How would you prefer to be living?
Contact me by CLICKING HERE if you need some coaching to help with reframing your life situation.
This weekend I was talking to my sister about play.
And we realised that as adults we spend A LOT of time being serious.
We go to work. We exercise. We walk. We shop. We eat. We walk the dog.
And that's not to say that these activities weren't enjoyable and even relaxing ... but where is the playfulness in all of that?
I just got a new pair of super-sleek and sexy green gumboots (from Merry People - I'll put their website link at the end).
And I said to Marnie ... "Okay, in honour of playing more ... I'm going to the beach right now, to play in the water!"
You can watch the video on my Facebook page - link is at the bottom of this page.
And while I was playing on the beach I came across a HUGE red starfish.
When I got home I looked up what the message was in Dr Stephen Farmer's Animal Spirit Guides book and it said:
Starfish means ...
-Keep your senses open to the new opportunities that are about to appear, and trust your intuition about which are the right ones to take advantage of.
-In spite of what others say, do things the way you want to even if it’s unusual or different from how most people would do them.
-There’s no need to hurry, so take your time getting where you want to go.
-In spite of any recent losses, trust that you’ll fully recover and start anew.
-Someone in your circle of friends or family is in need of your compassionate understanding.
-Meditate on the felt connection to All-That-Is and your place on earth and in the cosmos.
Often the simple things that you enjoyed as children or teenagers are what can light you up, give you confidence and have lots of fun. When you are a child you are curious, playful, full of optimism, resilient, and spontaneous.
So ... I invite you to take the PLAY CHALLENGE this month ...
Go to a playground and play on the swings, slide & monkey bars
Go to a grassy spot and lie down to do some cloud-watching
Go to the beach with no shoes on and build sandcastles
Go out in the rain and jump in some puddles
Go to your local icecream / gelato shop and buy your favourite flavour
What else could you do? It's your playtime ...
You can check out the Merry People website here: https://merrypeople.com/
Or their Facebook page is: https://www.facebook.com/merrypeoplerainwear/
Video of playing in my gumboots: https://www.facebook.com/573030416/videos/10164118979055417/
Thought you might like this 3-card spread for the New Moon from Yasmin Boland's new Moonology oracle card deck.
Do this spread at the time of the New Moon or as soon after it as you can, before it changes phases. The New Moon is a time for new starts. As you select the cards this about the coming month and ask the Divine to guide you to cards that will help you understand the energies that lie ahead. The layout will also work if you ask a specific question about the month ahead.
Card 1 - What's rising up in me?
Card 2 - The main message this New Moon
Card 3 - The final outcome
These are the cards that I pulled for my tribe ... Watch the video here: https://fb.watch/1fiy9JUmU9/
Card 1. Show the world the real you - full moon in Aquarius ♒️
Every full moon is a time to release and let go but the addition of Aquarius energy to the mix triples that message. Aquarius is the opposite of clingy and pulling this card at any time suggests either you need to let go or someone is thinking they are the ones who need to let go - perhaps of you. What needs to go? What is the right thing to do? Whatever happens next could be highly unconventional or unexpected.
Card 2. A new start is coming - new moon 🌑
The new moon marks the start of the waxing cycle and the mid-point of the dark moon. It’s a dark and veiled time, when the moon is invisible, and a time of rebirth. It’s a time that witches do their work, making wishes, and laying down intentions for a new cycle; an intensely magical time, when it’s easier to pierce the veil to other worlds.
Card 3. A fiery climax approaches - full moon in Aries ♈️
The full moon in Aries is a super fiery Tim, when emotions can run very high. On the upside, there is excitement about what may lie ahead, but tempers may flare, with rash comments or decisions. No matter when you pull this card, it signals that the situation has just, or is about to, come to a peak, perhaps in a rather heated way. There could be a price to pay if you have been too competitive or too blunt.
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For centuries the shamans and healers have prescribed using the light and energy of the moon during all the phases to realign and rebalance.
The moon has powerful magical energies not only to affect the tides.
Full moon - is the time for releasing and letting go.
New moon - is the time for setting intentions and manifesting desires.
You can tap into the moon energy too.
Try this very simple Moon Infusion Meditation:
Settle into a comfortable position preferably somewhere that the moonlight is resting on you.
Start by taking some deep cleansing breaths. Deep breath in through your nose. And out through your mouth.
Imagine the Moon above you in this moment. The glorious size, the shape, the brightness, the reflective light, and the energy that washes over you.
Let this powerful cosmic energy affect your physical body. Notice where it chooses to settle first. Notice which areas seem to be affected most by its intensity.
As you lay in the light of the moon, allow the energy to wash away any and all tension you hold in your body.
Surrender. Surrender to the energy.
With every exhale offer something new up to this glorious Moon before you.
Notice yourself getting lighter and lighter. Leaving room — space — for the energy that serves you.
That moon energy nourishes you.
Blessings Pip x
It’s the new trendy thing ... but it’s not a new concept. Journalling has been around for centuries. Anyone who has a thought they wanted to preserve, journaled. Explorers. Queens. Writers. Teachers. Poets. Comedians. Lawyers. Parents. Activists. Students. Lovers.
The list goes on and on.
Nowadays it’s not just a notes on paper thing. Digital journals are becoming more popular.
And for those of you who don’t think you can write, how about speaking into a transcriber app or using the voice memos on your phone.
Journalling has been romanticised as just for young lovers writing mushy prose about their beloved. But it has a powerful effect when you dive into a thought or feeling or situation, and discover something profound about yourself. Transformation happens when the unconscious becomes conscious.
And there are many ways to journal.
It could be intuitive prose that flows from the pen (or finger) like water from a glistening waterfall.
It could be automatic writing to explore the feelings on a particular topic.
It could be creative fiction writing to play our a scene wished for in real life, to see how you feel.
It could be rhyming poetry that is fun and light and lifts the mood. Or dark and twisty for delicious relief.
It could be “I feel” statements ... that give your unconscious Self a chance to express itself.
It could be the lyrics of a song, with music to match, to find a deeper level of connection.
It could be a ‘word map’ ... a collection of words that describe a situation or dream or feeling.
It could be a collage of words cut out from magazines to create a vision board.
It could be drawing coloured swirls and symbols that represent feelings of people or experiences.
Whatever way you are guided to journal is perfect.
Do it your way. Be your own way finder.
It’s your life ... and your journal, after all.
My latest project is a Spiritual Journal with 11 other collaborators ... we have come together to offer 12 different ways to journal, so you can find the way(s) that suit you. ENJOY A FULL YEAR OF UNIQUE JOURNALING EXPERIENCES!
Every month is written and designed by a highly inspirational and influential leader in the spiritual space. They have each crafted their unique way of journaling for you to explore and learn in ways you never have before.
What's in it? ... well there is Numerology, Archetypes, Angels, Mindfulness, Mediumship, Ancestoral Healing and lots more.
The Spiritual Journal will be available on 23rd October 2020.
UNDATED - you can start using this journal at anytime.
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