This week has been intense for everyone, lockdown 5.0 in Victoria, I mean ... come on ... again!!?
It's easy to get caught up in the drama, the frustration, the disappointment and the stress. Right?
I am not immune to the stress.
Being a Wellnes Coach and Reiki Master doesn't mean that I am a picture of calm and serenity all the time.
Sometimes I watch back-to-back episodes of 'Will and Grace' and eat Twisties and drink wine.
Ha ha ... we are all human.
And when we are faced with uncertainty we reach for the things that give us comfort.
Our brain needs to feel in control.
Our brain needs routine to feel safe.
David Gillespie says in his book 'Brain Reset' that when we have too much change or uncertainty (in the outside world) it can create fear, anxiety, anger and - if unresolved - depression.
Lack of control is unsettling and it causes spikes in dopamine in the brain, which affects our mood.
That low level anxiety that you feel can be relieved with a refocus of your attention. INWARD.
We are conditioned to look OUTWARD.
To watch the tv for direction.
To ask advice from out friends.
David Gillespie suggests that you can create certainty in your life, by having a routine or schedule that you do every day.
Lockdown or not ... you can do this routine and it will help you feel more calm and in control.
This reminded me of the David Attenborough documentaries about animal behaviour.
They all have a very clear set of behaviours that they do daily, weekly, monthly and yearly.
Birds fly South at certain times of the the year.
Wolves hunt in the morning and sleep in the afternoon.
Turtles lay their eggs on the same beach every year.
These are not random behaviours.
There is an important reason for this repetition.
It gives structure and security to their life.
You can be responsible for your own certainty.
The whirlwind of chaos can whirl around you, and you can be aligned and peaceful and centred.
So, let’s practice some routines, some rituals, some certainty-creating actions.
A) exercise at the same times each day.
B) eat at the same times each day.
C) read inspiring stories (not drama)
D) soothe yourself with less-addictive things ie. minimise alcohol, drugs, social media, gambling.
E) watch the news once a day to be informed (ideally after 12pm ... so you've done your self-care and you are in the best state)
F) share with people who honour and support your version of certainty.
You can be your own certainty-bringer.
Even when we are not in the middle of a pandemic, you can do this.
What a powerful skill to learn.
p.s. Remember if you need help with resetting your mind-body-spirit and aligning with your true purpose - get in touch with me about the Divine Alignment Coaching Program. CLICK HERE
Reference - Check out David Gillespie's book.
"Brain Reset" - Break the cycle of anxiety, depression, stress and addiction and restore mental calm and stability.
Anxiety, depression and addiction are the scourge of modern-day living. How are they linked? How do we beat them?
According to bestselling author and researcher David Gillespie, we are more addicted than ever before, which is playing havoc with our dopamine levels. This is fuelling epidemic-like levels of depression, anxiety and stress.
Gillespie reveals a large and robust body of research that shows how addictive activities, such as screen use, sugar consumption, drinking, gambling, shopping and smoking, spike our dopamine levels. This, in turn, affects our brain's ability to regulate our mood.
The good news is that we can break the cycle to make things better. There are myriad root causes of mental illness, many of which are beyond our control; David argues that it makes sense to tackle the thing that is within our control - our see-sawing dopamine levels.
Packed with cutting-edge research and practical advice, David's latest book arms us with the tools we need to break our addictions, conquer uncertainty and reset our brains.
Are you finding yourself talking about COVID in every conversation?
Do you start out talking about the book you are reading or the meeting you just had, and suddenly … you are back to COVID again?
Do you wake up and go to sleep still thinking about all the bad stuff going on in the world?
I want you to know … you are not alone.
We are all feeling the fear and trying to manage it in our own way.
I know … it feels like a crazy outta-control world right now …
But let me assure you that there is a way to reframe and feel safe.
The wonderful thing is that we DO have control of our own minds.
You may disagree, especially if you’ve gone down the Facebook rabbit-hole watching videos of people at US political rallies. (but I digress)
In her book, Uncharted, Colette Baron-Reid compares our fears to dragons within.
“It’s natural to fear the unfamiliar, and traditionally dragons are feared because we can’t control them – kind of like our fears, which get away from us. We fear our fear; that’s understandable. We fear our anger too because that’s hard to control. But fear and anger awaken us to the true nature of dragons; they represent our power. When you feel fear or anger and want to run, that’s when you need to go within and claim that power for yourself.” (page 59-60)
The thing to remember is that fear takes away your true power if you try to deny it, or hide it, or squash it down. It shuts down your intuition and your ability to reconnect with your soul. It leads you down a twisty road of misaligned perceptions that appear real. Colette called this fear “self-centred fear”. (Note: we are not talking about rational fear that you experience when you are truly in danger.)
Self-centred fear usually shows up when our small self (or ego) is not getting what it wants, losing something it cares about, not belonging or being ridiculed or being hurt emotionally.
The COVID situation has pushed our small selves into control overdrive. Some of our individual freedoms that we highly value, have been outranked by greater societal and health rules. It makes perfect sense that we would feel anxious and fearful.
So, it’s important to manage those self-centred fears, turn them around and trust the power within to lead you forward, miracles do happen.
Colette talks about awakening your “Observing Self” and realizing that you are in the “landscape of fear”, similar to the Dalai Llama who encourages us to say, ‘I am WITH fear’, rather than saying, ‘I AM afraid.’ It is a temporary emotion that will pass, not part of your identity.
Then she suggests meeting your dragon (fear), saying ‘hello’, honouring it and doing a guided visualisation to bring yourself back to the safe place of love and support.
If you’d like to listen to the guided visualisation called ‘Get on that Winged Creature’ – I have created an audio recording of the script from Colette’s book, that you can listen to it BELOW.
Whatever way you choose to soften the intensity of self-centred fears … it all comes down to radical acceptance, compassion, kindness and self-love.
Pip Coleman is the creator of The Divine Alignment Code coaching program, specifically downloaded for Earth Angels who are feeling frustrated, lost, anxious or disconnected from their true Self. This program will help you to re-set, re-align and re-balance.
Contact Pip on email@example.com to book in a complimentary ‘what’s it all about?’ chat.
Interview with Michele Scott - facilitator and founder of Our Wellness Community
This is the fourth lockdown in Victoria, we've had different kind of thoughts and feelings throughout each of the lockdowns. How are you feeling during this one? How does this impact you?
Yes. It has been a bit of a challenge. Hasn't it? This one, I guess, on, on the one hand, it's easy because we've done it before.
Yeah. It's sort of like, oh yes, we're doing this thing that we do ... where we put the masks back on and we stay at home and all that sort of thing. I mean, I get quite anxious and a bit sad and frustrated - all the same things that everybody else is probably experiencing.
And I live by myself. So I have a different experience than the people who are at home with their whole family.
It's a really interesting space to be in when there's nobody around, you know, you have to manage your mindset, you have to manage your emotions and be very kind to yourself in a different way.
Michele: Yeah, yeah.
So it's probably been not as challenging in a lot of ways because I knew what to expect, but then I'm asking do we really have to do this again?
I'm glad we're talking to talking to you, because you're living on your own. There are a lot of people living on their own. They're all sorts of different ages. And, sometimes for those people living on their own, and maybe if they're a little bit older in life, they miss out on their social time and that can really be debilitating and depressing.
Pip: Yep. Yeah. I think that's one of the things that I noticed is I miss that social time. So on my ride or my walk or my exercise that I do. I'm smiling and saying hello to every single person. I may not have met these people, but I just need that human contact. And going to get my cup of chai in the morning from the local cafe. That is really important for me to say hello to them, for them to ask me how I am ... and for me to ask them how they are.
It's so obvious that we all need human contact because that's why people push against the restrictions. People are pushing against these lockdowns because they feel they can't do without the human contact. We can't.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. We need the brain to release oxytocin, the bonding hormone. It's one of the feel-good hormones. It's, it's a knock-on effect, isn't it?
Yes, definitely though. I found that I had to put in place ways to help myself feel better? I keep asking myself what can I do to make myself feel better? So I did a lot of chanting. I do a lot of surrendering, practicing handing it over. Some people like to pray. Some people like to talk to their angels or their guides, or, do a meditation. There's lots of lovely ways to surrender.
But this morning I was doing my little chant in the shower. Om Namo Narayani - which is "I surrender to the universe" chant. And it sounds, it sounds great in the shower as well. It's like this echo-y beautiful thing. So that's a nice one.
And then I also, sometimes I'll pull a card, from my multitude of Oracle card decks. This morning I pulled the beautiful card, the Fox spirit guide, which was gorgeous because it's all about thinking on your feet and being adaptable and taking opportunities and not being scared to step into change. I thought was really, really cool considering what's happening at the moment.
Then I like to move because that's a big one. When we talk about anxiety or if you're feeling blocked, movement is a big one. Getting out in nature is huge help. It's really important because it raises your energy, and like you were talking about, all those beautiful hormones that we have in our body. Getting out in nature is super important for our bodies to reconnect and ground and get out of our heads.
So yeah, there's lots of being kind to myself. That's important.
Michele: That is so fantastic! And, I love chanting. It's so powerful. It's the power of the voice and the power of sound. And you're stimulating that throat chakra. That's awesome. I love it. Yeah.
And so Pip, you are a Reiki master and also a spiritual teacher, amongst many other things.
So, tell the audience where to find you and a little bit about how, how you help your clients.
Yes, I am a Reiki master and a coach and an author. I have more recently, I've been working on creating a beautiful divine alignment coaching program, which helps people, my fellow earth angels who are feeling exhausted and frustrated and disconnected from themselves, to reset rebalance and realign.
I've been really enjoying taking my coaching and my Reiki to the next level with these beautiful people, supporting others.
And the wonderful thing about it is that I can do it online. So no matter whether we're in lockdown or we're not, I can still do my meditation classes and I can do this beautiful coaching program and help people.
That is another way that I found being on my own I can feel better by focusing on assisting other people to feel better too.
Michele: Yeah. Yeah. I would love that - in helping others, we help ourselves ... it makes us feel good. Thank you for joining me today on Wellness Conversations on Casey Radio 97.5FM.
You can check out Our Wellness Community here: www.facebook.com/groups/owcvipgroup
And listen to our weekly radio show here: /www.caseyradio.com.au//shows/wellness-conversations/
One of my first mentors used to say: ‘when you ask better questions, you get better answers.’
It made a lot of sense to me that if I am asking questions like: ‘Why me?’ or ‘What’s wrong with my life?’ or ‘When did things get so messed up?’ … the general vibe of my life is not going to be great.
So, I would like to share with you some of my favourite ‘Seeker’ questions that I ask my coaching clients, as we begin our journey, to understand where you are now and where you want to be in your life.
1. What have been my successes, so far?
2. How would I like to leave this world a better place?
3. How would I like to serve?
4. What would I like the legacy of my life to be?
5. How am I expressing my creativity?
6. What would I like to world to know?
7. What do I believe in? What is my spiritual connection?
8. When do I feel like I am following my joy?
9. When do I feel most alive?
10. How would you like to express love in the world?
I encourage you to choose at least one or two questions that resonate (or you could answer all of them if you feel inspired to take the enquiry deeper).
Sit down in a quiet space with a notebook or journal, to write your answers.
Or you could speak the answers into the voice memos on your phone.
The MOST important thing with this process is to be authentic and honest.
And it’s okay if you feel emotional as you do this, that is your Soul / Inner Self confirming your truth.
Then I’d love to hear about your ‘aha’ moments.
Please send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
Or you could send me a message on my Facebook page: @pipcolemanauthorcoach
Pip Coleman is the creator of the Divine Alignment Coaching Program for Earth Angels who feel exhausted, lost, stuck or disconnected from their true self. Are you ready to re-align and re-set?
Book a ‘what’s it all about?’ complimentary chat at: www.pipcoleman.ClickBook.net
It’s that time of the year when the days are shorter, the air is cooler and the leaves are falling off the trees.
Do you just feel like curling up with a fluffy blanket, a cuppa-tea and a good book?
Well that’s EXACTLY what you’re supposed to do right now.
Autumn is the ahhhhh time of the year.
Now is the time to retire and relax.
Here are some yummy things to try this autumn ...
*Join a Yin Yoga or Meditation class to align your body, mind and soul to the focus of autumn - going inward to know yourself more deeply.
*Find a book club (online or in your local area) to read books that help you see life from different points of view.
*Go to bed a bit earlier and wake a little earlier to take advantage of the changing darkness & light hours.
*Try eating some more colourful autumn veggies to align your inner energy with the outer shifting season.
*Listen to some music with healing and soothing subliminal messages as you do your cooking or cleaning or driving. Check out the 'Calm' app or just go onto YouTube and search for 'subliminal music'.
*Find a few great podcasts to listen to that will expand your mind (give you some aha’s) – you might like to check out … Brene Brown’s ‘Unlocking Us’; Elizabeth Gilbert ‘Magic Lessons’; Russell Brand ‘Under The Skin’ and ‘Super Soul Conversations’ with Oprah Winfrey.
Remember the focus of autumn is about going within and taking the time to look a bit deeper than the surface. Maybe it’s time to take a more honest look at your job, your relationship, your money, or your health.
You don’t have to stop doing anything that you enjoy or feel is essential, but bring a few more gentle, heart-opening activities into your routine.
If you’d like to join a meditation group, ask me about my Mindful Monday sessions in Cape Woolamai.
If you’d like to try yin yoga, I can recommend a few great teachers on the island.
And if you’re interested in a book club, I facilitate a Spiritual Book Club that meets monthly. We read all sorts of spiritual, healing, self-care, new age, channeled, life coaching and wellness books.
BOOK A CHAT WITH PIP HERE: Contact / Bookings
This blog is a transcript from my interview with Michele Scott (Our Wellness Community facilitator) on Casey Radio 27th Apr 2021.
Michele: You help women find and get in touch with and bring out of themselves the most divine part of themselves. So that leads beautifully into a new course that you wanted to share with our listeners today. You've created the divine alignment coaching program, is that right?
Pip: Yes, it's so interesting. I started working with a beautiful coach recently myself, and she's been helping me to work out what I can do to help women to find and remember, and reset and align with their own soul, their own divine beings.
So, I've been putting together this beautiful coaching program, that can be done one-on-one or in a group, which is great. And, it's a five step process and it perfectly works out to be the, the words, the letters of align as, as it would have it.
We start with the letter A which is all about acknowledging where you are now. We begin at the beginning and clear away the guck! You know, the stuff that we hold onto from the past, and we always need to work on our clearing and, and preservation of our beautiful selves.
Then L is for love, acts, and rituals to take care of yourself. Because a lot of women spend a lot of time taking care of others, but they don't take care of themselves very well sometimes.
And I is for intuitive skills and trusting yourself. You know, a lot of women that I meet, talk about how they've forgotten their self-worth and their abilities. And so we look at that as an important element of aligning.
And then G is for getting guidance and self knowledge.
Then N is for nurturing your future vision, where do you want to go? Where do you want to be? What's your purpose and all those beautiful things that are come from self exploring exploration.
So, I use psychology, EFT tapping, which is emotional freedom technique and meditation, some simple mind and body alignment techniques so that women can, and can remember the way back to your true self.
Michele: That's fantastic. Pip it makes sense. Of course, after finding your own soul at sea, then creating the journal companion that can teach others how to find their soul, no matter where they are. And then that flows beautifully into this gorgeous program where you can take them deeper and deeper into that journey of self discovery.
I thought I might get you just to go a little bit more into what does that mean to align with your divine being? ... for those that may not have that spiritual kind of foundation in their lives.
Pip: That's a good question, because as I say, you know, that whole concept of getting to know yourself and being in alignment is ... I guess the feeling that many people have when they're NOT in alignment is things like, ... frustration or resentment or you know, there's that sort of niggly thing under the surface, that you can't quite work out. That irritation that you might have, you know, your life feeling like it's not quite right in some way.
And usually that's because if you're doing a lot of things for other people, or you're doing a lot of things that were old commitments, you know, things that you committed to years ago, but that don't resonate with you anymore.
So aligning with your true self, or aligning with your divine being, is for me back to that, the essence of you. Working out what it is that you actually truly desire now. Where you'd like to be going and what you're going to be doing rather than holding to a commitment that no longer serves you.
Michele: Yeah. I love it, yeah, that's a really good way to put that actually Pip that. You know that you're not aligned with your true self or your divine being when you're experiencing those feelings. And those things that you just said, even even anxiety and depression.
I can think of a friend who started to experience depression. And she came further and further into that journey of depression, of course, was trying all the different pathways you take to fix that. It was quite the journey for her for many years. It's a familiar story that I have heard, amongst other coaching clients. When the relationship that she was in ended and when that particular cycle of her life came to an end, honestly, the depression lifted and she came off the medication and honestly, good as gold.
Sometimes a lot of what we are feeling that is adverse negative and unhappy, as you said, could be misalignment.
Pip: Definitely, definitely. That's so cool that you are using that word alignment, because a lot of the time, the fact that you're having that feeling (of misalignment) is an indication that your soul, your true self, has another plan for you. You know, the fact that you have that feeling is an indication that there's something else that's better for you because you're, otherwise you wouldn't be having the feeling.
Michele: Ah isn't that a much bit of way to think about it. Wouldn't that be a much more hopeful and joyful to think about it like that instead of I'm feeling anxious and depressed and frustrated. It'd be so much more helpful to think, what my body's telling me or what I'm feeling like this in this situation, is giving me indication that yeah, there's something better in plan for me. A new direction.
Pip: Definitely. If we could talk about it in that way, rather than thinking that's the way the person's going to be forever. Oh, well, you're depressed forever now, or you're, you're going to be angry forever. Yeah?
Michele: Definitely. Yeah.
Pip: I find that really interesting. When you talk about teachers or coaches, they always end up coaching and teaching about the things that they have questioned and queried in their journey through life. And that's what I've been questioning and journey through over the last few years. So, it's all about discovering that sacred path so that you can write your own, your own story.
Michele: That is absolutely. I love that. So to book in for the Divine Alignment Coaching Program, can people just send you a message or go to your website?
Pip: Yes ... The divine alignment coaching program enrollments start on 18th May. There are ONLY 7 spots available.
You can find more information by booking in a complimentary 'what's it all about?' chat - send me an email: email@example.com
Or join me on Facebook at Pip Coleman Author Coach
Check out Our Wellness Community Group on Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/owcvipgroup
BOOK A CHAT WITH PIP HERE: www.pipcoleman.ClickBook.net
I thought I was honest in my book (and my life) ... but after reading Glennon Doyle’s book ‘Untamed’ - I was deeply affected.
Maybe I could’ve even more honest. Wow! Imagine that!?
Maybe I could become even more authentic and deeply connected to myself (and others) by telling the truth more often.
Maybe I could live more honestly.
Maybe I can write my next book in a way that is more truthful.
More raw. More vulnerable.
Brene Brown speaks about vulnerability and shame and guilt.
Interesting that these feelings are so connected.
I wonder what that book would be like?
What would it include?
Growing up ... truths about being a girl / woman and being the oldest sibling.
Relationships ... truths about being independent together, love, sex and heartbreak.
School ... truths about bullying and friends and parent as teacher at the school.
University... truths about thinking for yourself vs regurgitation to get a good grade.
Travel ... truths about going on a trip that was his not mine, and the trip(s) I booked myself. Empowerment.
Work ... truths about undervaluing your skills and standing up for your rights.
Business ...truths about following your dreams, losing faith, being frustrated, loving what you do and never giving up.
Spiritual development... truths about the times you let your ego get the better of you and times you were crazy in-tune connected to the universe.
Writing a book ... truths about waking up, synchronic meetings, almost giving up, support from others, anxious about judgements and massive personal growth!
Knowing the truth ... truths about myself, my fears, my blocks, my beliefs, my non-negotiables, my aha moments, my bravery, and my values - and how they can help others know themselves better.
How do I feel about speaking the truth?
🤔 hmmm okay - well that’s intense. It's exciting and I feel nervous too.
What will I uncover in myself?
Can I really do this? Tell it exactly how I see, feel, know it.
How do you feel about telling the truth?
This month I have been musing about my ideal client. I wonder if she resonates with you ...
She's a sensitive soul, who is connected sometimes to her goals and true self, but spends a lot of time overgiving to her family, friends and workplace.
She's slightly overweight (maybe a little more) with aches and pains in the hips and shoulders - mostly because she carries too much responsibility and has imbalance in her energy.
She is a caring person ... a teacher, a health-care worker, a nurse, a mother, a loving and helpful soul. And she's feeling resentful because others don't give back to her in the same way.
She is also tired a lot, but doesn't sleep well.
She is wishing for a life that is fun and easy and graceful.
She wants to rest and not feel guilty.
She loves to read but won't stay in the chair (or hammock) for "too long" becasue that would be lazy. But she wishes for that freedom.
She's got money for self-care and wants to use it more often.
She's keen to change and put herself as a priority more.
She's interested in wellness classes, psychic development, meditation, sound healing, yoga, massage and Reiki - and - honestly, anything that will help her to understand herself more fully.
She's wise and brave and funny.
She loves to laugh and share stories about her life and listen to other women do the same.
She is a firm advocate for people who are less fortunate and loves to help or donate to charities and community events.
She's a lover of yoga and meditation (and even if she doesn't do them all the time, she appreciates them).
She has a desire to learn and expand and grow.
Her favourite books are about past lives, mediumship, self development, self growth, magic, manifesting, inspirational journeys of courage and faith.
She believes in the law of attraction - even if she's not altogether sure what it is, or how it works.
She is willing to try new things and push out of her comfort zone to allow for change.
She's a nature lover who is a supporter of all things environmental and earthy.
She schedules her self-care so it is not missed and gives herself rewards.
She is serious at times that require it and silly when the mood needs to be lifted.
She trusts that when the student is ready the teacher will appear.
She describes herself as spiritual, but not religious.
She's my favourite client, because she is always on time, she pays before her treatments or coaching sessions and may even book 3 or 4 session in advance.
Thank you. I love you. I look forward to seeing you again soon.
Blessings Pip xxx
This resonated with me ... hope it's helpful to you too.
BY MELANIE CURTIN - @MELANIEBCURTIN
Around 40 million people in the U.S. have an anxiety disorder, which can range from a generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), defined as "intense worrying you can't control" to panic attacks, complete with heart palpitations, trembling, shaking, and/or sweating.
Whether you experience is of mild or extreme anxiety, there are steps you can take immediately to calm down and self-soothe.
Here are a few of the best:
1. Stand up straight
According to Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., psychologist and author of Freeing Yourself from Anxiety, "When we are anxious, we protect our upper body -- where our heart and lungs are located -- by hunching over."
For immediate relief from anxiety, stand up, pull your shoulders back, plant your feet evenly and widely apart, and open your chest. Then breathe deeply. This posture, combined with deep breathing, helps your body remember that it's not in danger right now, and that it is in control (not helpless). If you can't stand up (i.e. you're in your car), just pull your shoulders back and open up your chest. The most important thing is to stop hunching and breathe deeply.
2. Play the 5-5-5 game
When you're anxious, you're often caught in a (negative) thought loop. Play this to get back into your body and stop anxiety fast: Look around and name 5 things you can see. List 5 sounds you can hear. Move 5 parts of your body you can feel (i.e. rotate your ankle, wiggle your ears, nod your head up and down). It might sound silly, but this works.
3. Sniff lavender oil
Lavender oil has a lot of healing properties. It promotes a feeling of calm and supports deep, restful sleep. It can even help with headaches. To help reduce anxiety, keep a bottle of lavender oil at your desk (or in purse if you have one). Breathe it in and/or massage it into your temples when you need a boost of peace. Bonus points for combining the sniffing with deep, even breaths.
4. Watch a funny video
Yes, really. Watching a clip of your favorite comedian or blooper reel will help you stop feeling anxious fast. Why? Because you can't laugh and stay anxious at the same time, physiologically. Your body relaxes after a bout of laughter in a way that gets rid of anxiety. Plus, according to the Mayo Clinic, laughter brings in oxygen-rich air, which stimulates your heart and lungs, and spikes your endorphins.
5. Go for a brisk walk
Exercise is a long-proven way to lower anxiety. In addition to boosting your level of feel-good neurotransmitters, a brisk walk clears your mind and gets you breathing more deeply again--and anxiety is intimately linked to shallow breathing. Studies also show that people who exercise vigorously on a regular basis are 25 percent less likely to develop an anxiety disorder.
6. Accept your anxiety
This may sound counterintuitive, but Chansky says accepting your anxiety (instead of feeling ashamed or frustrated by it) will actually help you feel less anxious. It doesn't matter whether you inherited your anxiety from your family or your lifestyle, or both. It's here now, and acknowledging that instead of fighting it frees you up to learn how to manage it. Accepting it doesn't mean giving up, either. It means you stop spending energy berating yourself for being anxious and instead learn what works for you when it comes to self-soothing.
7. Listen to the most relaxing song in the world
This song was engineered specifically to calm your nervous system. It was found to reduce anxiety by up to 65 percent. Here is a loop of it playing on repeat. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYnA9wWFHLI
8. Re-label what's happening.
If you're having a panic attack and your heart is racing, it's easy to believe something like, "I'm going to die." Instead of buying into this inaccurate thought, re-label it. Remind yourself: "This is a panic attack. I've had them before and they don't actually kill me; they pass. This will also pass, and there's nothing I need to do." In actuality, panic attacks are an activation of the body's fight-or-flight response, which doesn't kill you--it keeps you alive.
9. Do something
Do anything. Clear a few things off your desk. Walk over to the kitchenette and get yourself a glass of water. Walk outside and find a flower to smell--it doesn't matter. Doing an action interrupts your thought pattern, which is often where anxiety starts.
When it comes to stopping anxiety, self-soothing is actually a profound act of self-love.
January is always a month of setting intentions and goals for the year.
And for me it always feels like lots of pressure.
How do I know FOR SURE that this is what I want to do this year?
What if I pick the wrong thing?
Will I stick to it this year?
Then I start to feel anxious ... and then I give up.
But ... something different happened this year.
I decided to stay on Phillip Island this year, because during this pandemic I feel safe here ...
I asked myself the question 'what would I like to do this year?'
One of the things that came up was enrolling in a hairdressing course or apprenticeship.
Ever since I was a teenager I've loved to do my own hair, play with colour, braid my sister's hair and be creative with hair.
But each time I was at a cross-roads where I could have done the hairdressing, I've not taken this path.
In the past, it was about money ... at one point it was going to cost me $15,000 to do the course. Nope!
And then it was about time ... 6 days a week for the apprenticeship, but I wasn't going to have time to do anything else.
But this time it was cheap (government concession due to being on JobSeeker this year).
And I had the time - only two days a week at school and one day a week in salon.
Then I had a conversation with the teacher at the school and some things became clear.
a) I actually don't agree with the "rules" of the beauty industry ... having to wear make-up to 'look professional' - WTF?
b) The first 6-12 months is basically theory - how to do a financial transaction in a salon, oh&s in the salon, compliance theory, how to look after clients (customer service), massage heads and wash and blow dry hair.
c) I already help people. I already make people feel good. I already do creative things. I already have loads of skills.
My revelation was that THIS childhood actually doesn't feel right anymore. WOW!
I was accepted into the hairdressing course ... but I felt really nauseaous about starting it.
And not a good nauseaous. :0)
I checked in with myself to be sure that I wasn't just scared to start a new adventure.
I compared this feeling to when I wrote and launched my book - Finding my Soul at Sea.
My childhood dream of writing books, on the other hand, feels good ALL THE TIME.
I felt scared and nervous and excited and intense when I launched my first book in 2019.
But I knew on a deeper level that this was my destiny and it was time.
Knowing the difference between being afraid and stepping into your new adventure, and feeling like something is really NOT RIGHT for you, is really important. And only YOU can know the difference.
I am excited for my next steps now ...
I have said a loving goodbye to the hairdressing dream ...
Now ... it's about growing and expanding and taking this life to the next level.
It may include EFT tapping, past life regression training, life coach training, or ???
I've also got my Find Your Soul companion journal coming out in February 2021 ... WOO HOO!!
So, may your 2021 be about you getting better at discerning your deepest desires !!
Feel free to comment below or send me an email to share your AHA moments.
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